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Posted: Sunday March 18th, 2007 07:36 pm |
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The day before.
Wednesday February 28 2007
I had just finished shopping for several gifts, Texas T-shirts and shot glasses. I decided to run 1 more search for a backup plan to list ladies in Nikolaev. I hit the view new ladies search. The first lady on the list was a good looking brunet but the picture was at a distance. I opened the profile and looked at the 2nd picture and think to myself, Boy that pose looks familiar. Suddenly the realization sinks in, it is a picture of Inna.
I have that bad pit of the stomach feeling. I have been conversing with Inna for 2 months, She was supposed to meet me at the airport in less than 48 hours. Why would she suddenly have brand new agency photos on a service I had used to send her flowers for valentines day. My mind is racing and my emotions are doing aerobatics. At this point I am not sure how to proceed. I give a friend a call who is in the business. He is totally surprised that the service I used would do this.
We form a game plane to confront Inna and the service when I am on my visit. I spend 2 very long hours finishing packing form the flight the next day. It was very hard for me to organize, my mind just would not stop thinking about those pictures. I had printed them because they were the best pictures I had of Inna.
I slip under the covers at midnight. I can’t seem to sleep longer that 15 minute intervals. In the morning I am up at 6:00 and do my final packing. I head to the office, I just have to check the new sight of Inna’s listing to see if anyone has emailed Inna. Open the page and Ahhhhhhh , no one has. I pick up a Rose to give to Inna when I arrive, the game plan was to buy one rose in every airport I stopped in.
On a side note mailing tubes make great containers for carrying roses, just rap them in floral paper and have one of those little water tubes on it. They arrived 2 days later in perfect condition.
The Trip
I get to the airport 2 hours before my flight, about 30 minutes before departure they announce a 1 hour delay, No problem I think I still have 1.5 hours to make the connection in O’Hare. We board 1 hour late and I proceed to spend the next 3 hours on the tarmac waiting for weather in Chicago. I am very tall guy, and sitting in coach is always a pain. Not to mention starting a trip where my emotions are in full after burner.
In Chicago I have to reschedule my flight to Warsaw for the following day. I also have to contact Inna to notify her of my change in schedule. I stay awake until midnight to call the service in Nikolaev. The service notifies Inna of my new schedule , and Inna will meet still meet me at the airport. This settles me some because I know Inna has a difficult time taking off from work. If she was not interested I believe she might have made an excuse.
I sleep fairly well. When I awoke, wanting to get a handle on what is going on, I spend some time rereading a portion of How to marry a girl like me. When reading an idea hit me. I make a list of all the positives I know about Inna.
The list.
Some of these items in retrospect I now view differently.
1. She was worried about me having a warm coat.
2. She called me a knight in a phone conversation.
3. She was spending 4 hours in a taxi to meet me at the airport.
4. She took off work to meet me.
5. How she described her cat to me.
6. She had answered any question I asked her in emails, and asked a lot of her own.
7. She described the last meeting she had of an American to me.
8. She had found an apartment for me (I will not ever do that again on a first meeting)
9. She had told her mother about me.
10. She never missed a phone call
11. She had agreed to use another email address and had debated it with me.
12. She had asked about price of the apartment.
13. She had once said to me on the phone “So you are a real man” referring to how much I hate shopping
14. She had asked me very directly about my willing ness to get a visa if we hit it off.
15. She was worried and had asked about who was taking care of my cats.
As I was writing the list I start to realize that Inna was doing a lot of thing in the book “How to marry a girl like me”. And was showing signs of being very interested in me. As I write this Trip report in real time, I am still not sure what is considered being a good host, but all my gut is telling me that Inna is very interested in us working out. So I ponder and try to come up with an idea on why the new pictures 2 days before we are meeting. Here is my guess. Inna and I had talked on the phone via an interpreter. She had some how seemed more distance in our last conversation. The day of our last phone conversation she had read the following email from me.
Hello Inna,
I hope you and your mother are doing well. In our letters with each other we have discussed life goals.
I find myself wishing there was a way that I could know how you feel about things. What goes threw your mind when you think of us meeting. I know it is possible that we might not get along with each other, but I hope with all my heart that we like each other as soon as we meet.
If things go well between us, I look forward to meeting your mother, She must be very special to have raised a daughter like you. I also want you to know I am only traveling to Nikolaev to meet you. I know some men travel to meet a lot of ladies at once, but to me that seems unfair.
Dear Inna , there are so many things I wish to know about you, simple things like what does your home look like, who are the people you work with, it just is very hard to discuss simple things in letters.
I have so much to say and ask, but I just can not seem to put the words on paper. So today will just be a very short email because we will again talk soon on the phone.
Sincerely
Dale
This email is the first time I had told Inna that I was traveling to Nikolaev to only meet her. So is it possible the service had told her that most men plan on meeting more than one lady on a visit? And that when she read the email after putting up a new profile, she had felt guilty? And this was the reason she was so distant in our last phone call? It is now 4 hours to my flight, snowing outside so I hope the flight leaves on time. 18 hours to my meeting Inna for the first time.
3:30 PM Friday.
Sitting in the Chicago international terminal. I am surprised when standing in the baggage line to meet 2 gentleman on the same quest that I am on. My mood is surprisingly calm. My arm pits smell, no clean shirt, I must save the extra shirt I have in my brief case for meeting Inna. My game plan is to freshen up in Warsaw.
As I sit here I am pondering about when my eyes opened, and I had no doubt about what I wanted. It is really such a simple thing. A feminine strong woman who wants a man to be a man. She must want a caring man, not some politically correct version of a wimp. How did we get to a point in the USA where so many women act like they want to be a man. What I want is a version of my mother’s ideals with different personality traits. My mother was born in 1925 and has the family ideals of Ukrainian women. I feel like a huge hangar door has been opened in front of me. Suddenly every thing I have always looked for in women is possible to find. After lunch in Chicago I picked up my 2nd rose. The store clerk had a big smile when I told her where the rose was going. Suddenly she could not help me enough. Yes romance still lives.
For lunch today I had met a business acquaintance. Matt and I had a great conversation about creativity and romance, I would bet that most creative people become romantics as they get older. I am also in disbelief how much I am enjoying writing this as I travel. Normally I really dislike writing, is it possible that I finally have something worth writing about?
I have always been a very analytical person. But this quest I am on seems to have awakened in me something new. A passion and joy for life that has been missing for the past years. At last I believe again that it is possible for me to find a wife who will want to have children and create a family.
Bruce, one of the gentlemen I had met in the baggage line, was on his 2nd trip. It sounded to me like his girl could not decide. I must say I could not see going on a 2nd trip to see the same lady if we had not already made a decision to go for it.
Sunday 4:30 AM.
Dam sleep is hard, went to bed around 9:00 PM, up at 3:00 am, so much for ambient sleeping pills. It has been a very interesting day, but I am confused. I see some mixed signals from Inna. When I met Inna at the airport, customs was a major pain. They politely relieved me of $120.
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Posted: Tuesday November 4th, 2008 08:53 am |
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Wow! How'd it go? I'm on the edge of my seat! This reads like the back of a really good book.
Is the book 'How to meet and marry a girl like me?' Written by Elena? Did it work for you???
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