wizzkidder,
Just as in the States, in Russia their is a wide range of temperaments, personalities and values. The major difference is that for RW they these tend to be a bit skew toward the end instead in being it the middle. With this the are advantages and disvantages. The idea with a RW is that the disadvantages will be easier to live with in a long term relationship. That being said, I will attempt to address your concerns.
1. I've been gelded.
Yep, I tied the knot on this one a few years back.
Answer - This is of concern to most young RW (~20 to 32). Most, if not all RW, want to have a family... of their own. There maybe a few young RW that will say that they don't want to have children, however if you prove to be a good husband and prove that you can provide an environment conducive for children... they have the perogative to change their mind.
The work around for this is to concentrate on RW that have children or older RW that consider themselves too old to have children (~30 on up). This is not a guarrantee but will increase your odds of not having a problem in this area.
2. I don't really acknowledge the concept of traditional male / female gender roles.
I don't believe that a woman's place is always in the home. She can work if she wants to but these days it's kind of hard to do like back in the days of I Love Lucy.
Answer - When you here the term "traditional" as relating to RW... it is not the same as you would imagine. RW traditonal roles are not modeled after "I Love Lucy" by a long shot. No doubt there are similarities... But then again the differences can be huge. If you are looking for a mate that shares your belief or non-belief in gender roles, you will most likely want to consider more Westernized RW. These are RW that dwell in the large cities that are of a younger age group.
3. I live in an apartment.
At this point I don't know how much of a sense of security RW have (and I hope that most RW are not that materialistic), but I do not own my own home and with the ridiculous reel estate prices these days, it may be awhile before I own my own home.
Answer - Nearly all RW live in apartments to begin with. Will they feel safe in an American apartment? It depends. In general, if you are not on the first floor she will be fine unless you have some glaring security issues. If you are on the first floor, she may not feel safe from wandering bandits and thieves .
What you bring to the table is mainly yourself. The material goods just sweeten the pot and makes life a little easier. If you have a lot going for yourself as a decent person... many RW look at this as the main deal. Remember that most RW are still to this day influenced by their communist upbringing of "the collective." Everything belongs to everyone. Their ideas of posession are rather mixed in some respects. Some are extremely materialistiic while others are not. The good news is that RW's material interests are as plain as day once you meet them.
--------------------------------------------------------------- Of course one can't determine suitability based on these 3 questions and answers, but it is a start. If you have any more feel free to ask.
RoninLast edited on Saturday October 6th, 2007 07:31 am by ronin1
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