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| Posted: Monday March 20th, 2006 01:42 am |
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When to Start Looking for a Russian Bride After a Divorce… The assumption is of course that one has decided to go this route in the first place. One is entitled to conduct serious relations with any RW after the divorce is final. To have serious relationships before hand will be really living on the edge. Regardless, it is best to have most if not all your divorce settlements and agreements executed and behind you. No sense in carrying old baggage into a new relationship. Your RW will not appreciate having to share her prospective husband with his ex. If you have children from previous marriages, this will be a major bone of contention with most RW. Whether you have a good understanding with her or not as to how important they are… it will become a problem in many cases. So it is best to know this up front. RW, for the most part, like the idea of a man that is devoted to his children, however dealing with the reality of this is a whole different matter. Get your financial house in order. Once you start on this road, things tend to happen very quickly. Have your finances in order for having a new Russia bride. Remember that the expenses of having a RW can mount up quickly with all the not planned for incidentals. Is your house ready? Is all your ex-wife’s stuff out of your house? You know all those nick-knacks that keep reminding you of your ex? All her odds and ends that she didn’t have time to rummage for. Get it all out and make a clean sweep of it. Some say that one should spend a year or so after a divorce to let things settle down. Perhaps this is true if you have a bunch of time to waste. It is well known that a divorce is one of the most tramatic events in a person’s life. Yet, on the other hand it takes a person that has been pushed a little off kilter to start thinking outside the box and contempt an international marriage. Many of the AM that I know that have married a RW did so shortly after a divorce. Perhaps this is the most telling statement of all. Ronin
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| Posted: Friday March 24th, 2006 01:51 am |
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Ronin, exactly where I have just come through. Be a yr May 1st, since she left. The house is cleared of her and our last interrelated item is about done, the Taxes for 05. My children are grown, but still living with me. They and Luba have talked a little on the phone and there is already a comfort level with them and They are anxious to meet. Thanks, Joe
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| Posted: Wednesday May 3rd, 2006 01:43 am |
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ronin1 wrote: Some say that one should spend a year or so after a divorce to let things settle down. Perhaps this is true if you have a bunch of time to waste. It is well known that a divorce is one of the most tramatic events in a person’s life. Yet, on the other hand it takes a person that has been pushed a little off kilter to start thinking outside the box and contempt an international marriage. Many of the AM that I know that have married a RW did so shortly after a divorce. Perhaps this is the most telling statement of all. I would say it is better to wait 2 or 3 years. Rushing in and making a choice because of lonelyiness and the emotional need for a family really up the odds for failure. I met my future ex-wife 10 days after my divorce from my first ex was final. I was married 2 1/2 months and 2 more trips later. While it was happening I at times wondered "Am I doing the right thing?" but the heart over ruled the mind. Besides, isn't this whole affair a bit off kilter anyway? Meeting women we hardly know who speak a different language and have a different culture? The guy who advised me on how to get married in Russia met and married his wife on his first 2 week trip there. They had be cooresponding through an agency and he came with all the apostled documents etc. A month later she comes in on a DCF and a month after that she's to quote him "Preggers" with their son. Last I heard they are still together. Maxx
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| Posted: Wednesday May 3rd, 2006 03:34 am |
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ronin1 Administrator
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Maxx wrote:
Maxx wrote:
Yes, I think 2 to 3 years is the better plan. Maxx wrote:
Hindsight is 20/20. Maxx wrote:
Been doing this my whole life. It started in the military and continues today just living in California. That's how I made first contact with RW to begin with. As the business world chants the phrase "think global," it isn't a big leap to think that it may apply to one's personal life with positive ramifications. Well, perhaps not positive to all. Ronin
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| Posted: Wednesday May 3rd, 2006 03:48 pm |
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Ronin, the guys that get into trouble think small and narrow. It is like "Hey I have a nice 3 bedroom house, a good job, a good car, a motorcycle strapped to the back of my RV. All I need is a wife. Hey I wonder what she will think of the lunch buffet at the Old Country Buffet? It sure beats that food served back in her country. She will be so greatfull to me for getting her out of Russia". All of this is a false premise. Then when they start thinking about the problems that might enter into the dream (not her dream) they remember their problems with their ex-wife, an American. They prepare for problems that never come but not for the ones that do. Those new problems catches them off guard. Their type of reaction to this is based on what they did before with their problem with their American ex-wives. The language and cultural differences with the Russian woman then come into play in all of this. The message I try to give out is that there is another very important factor that few AM know about. That is the legal and immigration issues that come into this when a marriage appears rocky. In other words it is nice that a guy can stand toe to toe and argue with his wife and say "no" to her financial wants (usually the "no" is used for these) but he better be careful she isn't a GCG, mentally instable or influenced by her Russian friends. Overall a guy would be better to wait before rushing in. Get his nerves back to normal so he isn't desperate or too defensive (divorce is like a war). Then study this whole affair by reading message boards like this one. Meeting other RW/AM couples. Build a advice and support network. Then when his head is clear and with the help and advice of knowledgable people he can trust then start looking for a good RW. But most guys are too proud and self reliant to do any of this. Maxx
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| Posted: Friday May 5th, 2006 05:13 am |
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Maxx wrote: Then study this whole affair by reading message boards like this one. Meeting other RW/AM couples. Build a advice and support network. Then when his head is clear and with the help and advice of knowledgable people he can trust then start looking for a good RW. But most guys are too proud and self reliant to do any of this. Maxx, I think you have hit on an important topic. Like myself I didn't frequent or join a RW forum until I was waiting for the K-1 visa. I would hazard to guess that many WM don't find these forums until they are waist deep and sinking fast. The question is how to reach them before they hit quicksand without any support. Ronin
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| Posted: Friday May 5th, 2006 07:43 pm |
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I will think on that problem a bit and respond later to it. I know that allot of guys myself included get drawn to the immigration boards at are legal or quasy- legal site. There they meet a varity (bad speller today) of men and some women who are only concerned when their K visa will be aproved. Nobody questions whether they are prepared for this venture or if they made the right choice in a fiancee or spouse. Especially that last one. I had one American women send me a photo of her Russian fiance and he looked like a seedy lowlife criminal. Maxx
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