Russian Women and the Sports Fan…
In relative terms, life is easy for us WM. Many of us have the luxury of following the sports of our choice with great zeal. This is not generally so in Russia for RM. Young RM are typically not so engrossed with sports to the point of addiction like WM can be. They certainly can appreciate and be passionate about sports, however they simply don’t have the time to indulge in it as WM do. RW are used to this rather lack of interest in sports that young RM have. By RW’s passive observations they unconsciously expect this in all men by association. Though this connection by association is flawed, it is nevertheless RWs’ expectations.
Just as WM go to Russian in the search of the more perfect wife, so do RW opt to date WM for the more perfect husband. RW are expecting to find men with less bad habits (vices), yet they sometimes find vices (in their eyes) that they never dreamed of. RW believe that they will find a man that will not occupy his leisure time with booze, drugs and women. They often will find this in WM. However, they sometimes get something that they didn’t bargain for when they marry a sports fan.
To RW a sports fan utilizes his time in an unproductive manner. Perhaps this is no different then the view of WW. However there is one big difference. WW grow up knowing that sports fans are a fact of life while RW do not. It is customer’s expectations that we are talking about. RW didn’t expect this and so they can become very dissatisfied or distraught with a relationship with an avid sports fan.
What to do? If you are a seriously into sports and/or are a sports fan, state your claim up front in the relationship. Let your RW know what it means to you. Give her examples of how deep your interest is in the game. Give her some perspective of how many weekends and weekdays will be superceded by your pursuit of sports. In this regard don’t assume she knows. Set her expectations right, so that she will know what she is agreeing to when she says, “I do.”
RoninLast edited on Sunday November 26th, 2006 07:14 am by ronin1
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