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ronin1
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Posted: Saturday March 4th, 2006 03:12 am |
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Lies to a RW…
A lie is a lie unless we are talking about a RW. In this case one has to be very careful. Sometimes the truth can also be a lie to a RW. Bear in mind that a RW is basing a life decision on what a stranger is saying. In her eyes you maybe many more things than just a husband. RW are looking for a quality husband. Of course ones words will be weighed carefully on the RW truth scale.
Truths are simple, direct, clear and concise with all details (there should be few if any details needed). Lies are convoluted, indirect, and vague with omitted or inaccurate details.
Here's an example of how our Western view of truth. “I own a house.” To our senses this is a clear and accurate statement; however to a RW this may not be so clear. In Russia, mortgages on homes and apartment are almost non-existent, so to say one owns their home means that they own it free and clear. In the States most homeowners have mortgages and don’t own their homes free and clear. Explaining the American system of home ownership is problematic since it is convoluted, indirect and vague. As such it maybe best to just say that one lives in a house which is a direct, clear and concise statement.
Appearances of lies are lies. An example is this statement, “My car’s color is blue.” This is a seemingly simple and accurate statement of the facts. Indeed you car maybe a deep blue that when seen in a particular angle may appear to be black. And if you show such a picture of your black car to your RW, there will be a contradiction between what you say and what she sees. This will lead her to believe that you are at the very least bending the truth and will wonder and suspect all the things you have said or will say. Best to have what you say fully supported without the hint of contradictions.
In short, one doesn’t have to be untruthful to be considered a liar by a RW. When talking or writing to a RW, think to yourself what would Hemmingway say. Stay clear of long winded explanations… cut to the chase. Make your statements as plain as day and you will not go wrong.
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Last edited on Tuesday November 18th, 2008 08:36 am by ronin1
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Posted: Saturday March 4th, 2006 06:02 pm |
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Those with a hair trigger with a credibility test they examine us with maybe someone to avoid. I mean what else are they a hair trigger with? Close scrutiny of anyone will yield flaws. Do you want to walk on eggshells the rest of your life? Do you want to accused of cheating because you didn't come home on time and forgot to call? Accused of being abusive if you don't open the car door fast enough or park to far away from the Mall entrance (true examples BTW)? I'm asking these questions to anyone it applys to. If I was considering a RW for wife that obviously would put me on a short leash or was quick to accuse me of anything I would run for my life! There are all types of personalities in RW. Why choose one who is quick to call you a liar?
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IamCaleum
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Posted: Friday November 24th, 2006 06:22 am |
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I personally would be very wary if said RW was NOT looking closely at everything I wrote, said (phone), and sent pictures of. For all the letters, emails, phone calls, and visits, she is still going to be agreeing to marry a man she hardly knows and who may well live on the other side of the planet. She will leave everything she has ever known behind, so it is quiet natural (to me)for her to look into every crack and crevice.
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Posted: Tuesday October 28th, 2008 06:34 pm |
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If I wanted to marry a feminist and walk on egg-shells the rest of my life, I'd marry a NY-AW. As I'm planning on marrying a RW, I'm sure simple explanations, simple truths, and honesty will be the best policy.
But since MOST RM cheat, even if she thought you were cheating on her, would she really leave you over it???
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ronin1
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Posted: Wednesday October 29th, 2008 08:46 pm |
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Of course, AM don't want to be married to a partner that continually disputes their fidelity. This can have a deleterious effect on the marriage in short order.
On the other hand, RW are traditional. This may include a bit of old fashion banter where the woman of the house makes it her job to remind the husband of that fact. It comes with the territory and perhaps more so with RW and their arguing nature. One should not take offense to this, but relish it. Since the RW takes the effort and expends the energy to do it means that you are important in her life. Now, when she stops talking... that's the time to worry.
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Posted: Thursday October 30th, 2008 12:54 am |
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RQRose wrote: If I wanted to marry a feminist and walk on egg-shells the rest of my life, I'd marry a NY-AW. As I'm planning on marrying a RW, I'm sure simple explanations, simple truths, and honesty will be the best policy.
But since MOST RM cheat, even if she thought you were cheating on her, would she really leave you over it???
If she 'thinks' you are, she'll try to prove it, so better not be. Chances are, here she'll leave you if you are. She'll have a network of other RW to support her and the laws here favor the women more than the men.
Sneaking around to play poker with the guys will only convince her you're cheating as she's expecting to catch you lying and/or cheating, but hopes that you really aren't.
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Posted: Thursday October 30th, 2008 07:28 am |
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So the scenario would play out:
"You're CHEATING!!!"
"No, I'm not!"
"Yes you are! You were not at (insert location), because (Insert RW friend of hers) was at (insert location) and she said YOU were not there!"
"Ok, ok, jease! I've been playing cards at (insert AM)'s house. I just need a guy's night out once in a while..."
(Who can fill in the rest of the script? =)
Ok it's from that point that her reaction becomes unpredictable to me. Some women (even AW) will REFUSE to believe you unless you get the AM's WIFE on the phone and SHE tells her that, "Yes, he was here, and I served them (insert food) and he spilled beer on the carpet. But he still shouldn't have lied to you, blah, blah, blah..."
I don't think it's a good idea to Ever cheat, it's just interesting that there is a double standard for AM vs RM, even among RW. Is it because they expect Better of us? Or the law's in America just favor them more? (I HATE American marriage laws, they're doing their best to destroy the institution of marriage.)
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Posted: Friday October 31st, 2008 04:59 am |
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RQRose quote:
(I HATE American marriage laws, they're doing their best to destroy the institution of marriage.)
Bingo!
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