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Posted: Saturday April 14th, 2007 06:59 pm |
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What takes you to visiting the sites and treating the RW from a passing fancy to a worthwhile pursuit? If you have any sense - you will know the scammers right away. I don't care how un-worldy you are. If you can't? too bad.
So, what did I do? fell into a honesty trap, covered in an assumption. I practically advertised in my profile to be a conduit to the U.S. for surely. they would be so desperate to even think of being with me. for that conduit. I tried to call them at their own game. This was the assumption.
The honesty trap came in the sarcastic reflex by writting a behemoth of a letter, expressing too much and with the motivation to dare the reader to challenge such honesty. I thought I could cut through the "bull" and be practical. This ascerbic duality of " I know what you want because you are on this site and therefore pre-disposed, you know what I want because I am a man. Let us find common ground in both our desperations, that we may find some comfort while we both keep our eyes on the prize and not each other" ....Does not fly.
Because. there are legit people there. From my stereotype image to hearing a RW write that they want to progress in life with a "partner, as in a team " that contradicts somewhat the stated fact that they want an old fashioned man-of-the-house relationship, may be due tothe 10 years of changes, and shifting attitudes- making them more western and therefore not asdesirable? especially to a 43 yearold man and these 22-35 year oldwomen?
And when expressing this concern of age difference- that is also manifest in the music video as posted as a link on this site ( the singers make fun at the middle aged man ) to see a response from another 22yearold " maybe you should look for someone older,in their 40'smaybe " The natural air of skeptisism flares up and says- maybe it's too late now, maybe I should have tried- back then when it was the U.S.S.R and my friends jokingly set me upon asite to take advantage of the desperation while in my 30's. And you think, darn it, they didit, and I fell for it, because I just spent xxx.xx.
I suggest back up. This site mentions having a plan. This is good. Keep the skeptisism. Be "serious" only when you know you will be able to make at least one trip there. If you cannot afford it now, chances are you will not be able to then-no matter how much your heart deceives your mind with hope, upon gazing at these beauties, and the saying will remain something you tell others, when you are old that they may hope, or tell the saying to them that you may- just may- see it done by them that- the saying being "Love conquers all"
But, the mind-set. when she said, try those in 40's she was responding to my concerns, not hers. She was thinking, well I would, but if you feel this way, then for YOUR benefit... See? the mind-set.
Oh, and alot do not want to leave, but ALL want a loving, married, life. Yes, the site says this, I understood it like a ...another brand of soap in the WallMart isle, there, and of "some" concern. I may wait for the next wave, maybe go to Brighton Beach, a whole community there of russian speaking peoples, I may include a photo of me, there, with a NY Times, with a background showing street after street of Cyrillic and Russian alphabet sings, ads, bilboards, papers as it exists in Brighton Beach, to include on my profile.
Something to note. No one there, not even the FSU, now western Employees at the international bank where I work, really want to talk about it. Maybe from embarrasement? YES. Neither do the women, don't flaunt it.
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