Russian Women and Boredom…
Russian Women get bored. I don't think that any WM/RW relationship can avoid this. It is simply a function of one or more of the following: repetition, familiarity and/or lack of challenge. However, too much boredom will lead to depression. This is to be avoided.
In the beginning, the Russian Woman's world is defined by how functional she is in her new surroundings. Consequently, her world is small. So activities that she can do, become all: repetitive, familiar and lacking challenge.
As some will say, it is up to the man to 'be the man’ and lead her into new activities and to help her become more functional in society. She is depending on you to lead and you have led her to the computer and the Internet. This should increase her world significantly, however at some point you must lead her to things in the real world so that she may grow.
One avenue is entertaining her. Take her out dancing, once a week, go bowling, sightseeing and the like. But remember that this requires a lot of work on your part as well. Balance entertainment with productive work. Help her find a part-time job. Have her study ESL. If she is ‘tabula rasa’ when it comes to things to do, then decide for her. Provide some samplers, if you will, in activities to help her find her niche. In Russia, one is limited in the things that one can do. Here, almost anything is possible. Perhaps, she doesn’t know where or how to start. Perhaps she is worried because every activity cost so much. You must console her that it will be all right. You have to help her before she can help herself.
The computer is an interesting diversion so long as the activities there are productive. Still, you must get her out of the house and into the world or she will grow stir crazy. Worse is that if you don’t do this, she may lose respect for you as a husband. If you don’t lead, she may interpret that you are not performing your duties as a caring husband. If you lose her respect, things can go down hill quickly in the relationship.
RoninLast edited on Sunday August 13th, 2006 08:59 am by ronin1
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