How do You Know when Your Not the ‘Man’…
For whatever reason, I have seen it many times in WM/RW couples where the WM allows the relationship get away from him. Sometimes it’s starts off that way from the get go. Often times the WM is like the proverbial ‘frog in a heating pot.’ In any case it is bad news and the prognosis for a happy long-lived relationship is very unlikely unless prompt and stern actions are taken to steer the right course. So here is an impromptu test to determine if you are sliding into the abyss.
You are not the ‘man’ if:
- Your Russian Woman calls you from the other side of the house to get the TV remote that is just out of her reach… and you get it for her.
- Your RW rakes you over the coals for being ten minutes late from work… and you say you’re are sorry.
- Your RW goes into a rage over small seemingly unimportant details… and you jump through hoops to placate her.
- Your RW starts to throw things on the floor knowing that you will agree to almost anything to make her stop it.
- Your RW lights fires in the house (not in the fireplace) in front of you, knowing that you will hop to action to put the flames out.
- Your RW demands to get her way and throws everything at you including the kitchen sink to get it… and you let her get away with this behavior.
- Your RW wields knives and other implements of intimidation to make her point… and you are intimidated by it.
- Your RW scoffs and mocks you openly for being weak… and you make yourself a door mat for her to walk all over you.
Well, I can add some really scary stuff, but I think I’ve driven the point home. Keeping a RW happy is a balancing act of giving and taking (demanding). For the RW to go from a harsh survival first environment to one where everything seems possible just by the asking (demanding) is a shock to their system. It takes time for them to down shift from survival mode to something that more approximates a western style of thinking.
RW admire strength of character. To them this is a trait of a good husband. A husband with wealth (or not) that is being too accommodating (even to the wife) can be easily manipulated to lose all. RW have little respect for such a man. With loss of respect there is little likelihood that love will grow. What can grow is arrogant contempt.
RoninLast edited on Saturday October 28th, 2006 02:21 am by ronin1
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