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Posted: Monday July 31st, 2006 02:58 am |
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First Meetings, Agency Style…
Agencies are good at helping with the logistics, however when it comes to the actual meetings/dates, then you’re essentially your own. First, one has to decide whether the initial first face-to–face contact will be a date or a meeting.
If one has had substantial contact (letters, e-mails, phone calls, etc.) with the lady in question before the first face-to-face, then perhaps it can be considered a date. In this venue, one may consider asking his interpreter for recommendations for places to go or excursions to where he can woo your RW. In this regard, one can immediately start building shared experiences and measure the RW’s reactions to new situations as it applies to his potential future relationship.
If one has determined that the first face-to-face will be a meeting, he may consider other venues to get acquainted. Here again, if he is on good terms with your interpreter, she can recommend things to do or places to go.
Sometimes agencies will have special meeting room(s) or areas to conduct initial contacts. Don’t bank on using them since it is often first come first serve to use them. Also, it may not be the greatest venue to put your best foot forward either. Still, if it is -5 degrees outside, it maybe preferable than going outside for a stroll in the park. For whatever it is worth, I have noticed that WM tend to use them more often in the beginning of their first visit and when they are nearing the end of a visit.
The most popular venue to get acquainted is to just go for a walk. A nearby park or along a riverbank is idea. Most any place that provides a restful and calm atmosphere helps. This may not appear like putting your best foot forward, however to serious RW you are a stranger and at this point they don’t expect you to put on the Ritz. To the contrary, serious RW appreciate a potential husband that doesn’t waste money (nix on behavior befitting a miser, as well). If RW are looking for men that squander the household funds, they don’t have to look across the ocean for that.
Remember, The only reason that this is not a date is because the RW doesn’t know the WM in question from squat. To bridge this gap, one can do it the slow way and lose precious time or the quick way. Most prefer the quick way, which is laying one’s cards on the table and calling the RW’s cards as well. This approach has been coined by a former agency owner as “converse in reverse” (Woody the “witchdoctor”). This may not be comfortable to both sides, however is understandable to all since both sides are going through an agency to meet in the first place. Once everyone knows where each other is coming from, this has a way of kick starting a relationship if on is to be developed.
These first encounters of the Russian kind typically last 30 to 45 minutes. This is because one may have an appointment with another RW on the following hour. Also, these meets occur during the workday when RW have to make a living. I have had first face-to-face contacts that have lasted 5 minutes to 6 hours. Suffice to say, the latter where meeting that had turned into dates.
For those RW who’s English is less than perfect, their response to these somewhat contrived settings are sometimes awkward at best. Many RW will have to learn to communicate through an interpreter which everyone knows that three is a crowd, especially under these circumstances. Learning to become comfortable with this 5th wheel is a difficult task for many. RW don’t like to divulge details of their lives to other Russians.
Another difficulty is that some RW may protect themselves with an icy wall. Who knows what their recent relationship history as been. If one meets an ice queen, ask about her relationship history. Chances are that she had a recent breakup and has her defenses up at full strength so as not to have her heart broken again. If this wall can’t be breeched within two or so meeting, then beware that this treasure maybe buried too deep for the average WM. Time to move on.
On occasion, one will encounter a RW that he has literally nothing in common with. Don’t waste time. The total cost per hour in meeting RW on a ten-day agency visit can easily climb to well over 50 dollars an hour. In these extreme cases, it is better to end the meeting as soon as possible so as not to waste anybodies time. Don’t worry about hurting the RW’s feelings; she will most likely feel the same.
These are just a few peculiarities of meeting RW through an agency. Of course I’ve just barely scratched the surface. These are not insurmountable points by any standard, however by recognizing them, one can navigate the RW waters more easily to their goal.
Ronin
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