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Posted: Friday August 4th, 2006 07:07 am |
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Be Yourself vs. Showing Your Best…
Many writings and posts will spout “be yourself” or “put your best foot forward” when meeting RW. This may sound contradictory to some, however with a few examples I’m sure it will be clear that this is not an “either-or” thing but more an intelligent blend of both statements.
The most confusing maybe the question of attire. Since many WM that get involve in this endeavor are not familiar with Russian dress, what to wear is always a point to ponder. Definitely, Russians’ sense of style is significantly different. They are more influence by European moda. Still, European high style is not necessarily what is most appropriate for a first meeting with a RW. To compound this, Russian fashion is rarely a WM’s sense of being “one’s self” either.
In this case the answer can be obvious. For a man whose casual inclinations are to don worn blue jeans (or shorts), “T” shirt and tennis shoes, it is unlikely that he will wear this on a first date in his homeland. Such casual attire in Russia will earn one less kudos from his prospective RW dates. Sure, in Russia many WM can be successful in attracting RW with “being one’s self” attire. It amazes me that WM (particularly from the U.S.) will spend tens of thousands of dollars trying to decide on which RW is right for them, yet will shoot themselves in the foot or at the very least make their endeavor more difficult from the get go by not dress appropriately.
Then on the other end, over dressing the part is not as nearly as bad, however can engender a whole new line of questions in a young RW’s mind. First, men in the traditional sense should not be overly concerned with fashion and style; such things are reserved for the feminine species. Also, the AM’s sense of fine attire maybe considered old, stuffy and out of date to young RW… and that is certainly not going to impress them. If any thing, it may exacerbate the age difference problem if it an issue in the first place.
RW expect their men to be at their best at first sight. What I mean is at their best that is suitable for the RW in question. If one is first seen in “being one’s self” attire, what will she think how such a man dresses at home... no cloth at all? Alternately, RW don’t want to be seen with a man that dresses like their father or out-shines them either. RW are very keen on fashion. In the traditional visual sense the man is the foil for the woman… to be present yet not out-shine nor degrade her.
In this regard, use common sense or stay in the golden middle when in doubt. Remember, men won’t over think this issue. There are a lot of other concerns in this endeavor that demand your more immediate attention.
Ronin
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