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| Posted: Friday January 19th, 2007 02:44 am |
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ronin1 Administrator 
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Russian Brides and the Lost Gold… Here is a situation that one may encounter. How you response to it will determine who you are to a Russian Woman. First, let me preface this with some facts. Russian gold jewelry is of good quality and very inexpensive by Western standards. The average wedding band for a RW can go for 20 to 30 USD. This is a small token to represent such a huge commitment. Second, when you visit a RW for the first time, one wants to make a good first impression. This is not a cultural thing, just good common sense. First dates, a WM should have their senses open to an appropriate way to convey that he is the man for her. Lets suppose that you are out on a first date with a RW. Of course she is the most gorgeous thing that you have seen in a long time. She is in her early 20s and appears very interested in you. With long legs and a sheer short summer dress she leaves little to the imagination. You pull yourself away from her awesome beauty long enough to notice that she is fidgeting with a long gold chain that wraps around her tanned neck. You take her to the local upscale restaurant to wine and dine her. The idea is to put her in a good atmosphere to get to know her, as well as, impress her with your best foot forward. Between the main course and desert, she excuses herself to powder her nose. You think to yourself that things are going well and that she might be a possible match for you. When she returns she seems very happy to be with you. She sits down and resumes her meal and conversation. Shortly afterwards she reaches up to fidget with her chain again and lo-and-behold it is gone! Were did it go. The RW becomes frantic and searches everywhere. You help her search for it as well. The first date with your potential future wife has taken a turn for the worse. What do you do? Will you salvage this date by assuring her that you will buy her a new one if the old one can‘t be found (remember that this could be your dream wife)? Will you ignore her distress and pretend that it’s not your concern (perhaps she is not for you)? How will you handle this? There are three ways it can be looked at… the right way, wrong way and your way. Ronin Last edited on Tuesday March 4th, 2008 07:51 pm by ronin1 |
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| Posted: Saturday October 3rd, 2009 10:17 am |
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Pasternak Member 
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Although I have never been in a situation like that, I suppose that being confident that she is for me I wouldn't bother to buy a new one! 
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| Posted: Wednesday October 14th, 2009 12:15 am |
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ronin1 Administrator
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Pasternak, Impressive. You answer is correct, but your reasoning is not fully explained. This is how a savy WM that is familiar with Russia might size-up the situation. 1) She was dressed to kill. In the States this would be a sign that she is interested in you. Not unusual for a RW on any first date. 2) You have taken her to an upscale establishment for dinner. This is considered customary in the States for a girl that you are really interested in. In Russia, Russians rarely go to such places due to the high cost. Only those that have money to burn go to such places, often. It is a way to impress a RW as to how much money you have. 3) She was figeting with her chain. In the States this maybe a sign that she is nervous... that she is really into you. In Russia, people generally don't draw attention to their valuables. She's drawing your attention to it... but why? Ronin Last edited on Wednesday October 14th, 2009 12:18 am by ronin1 |
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| Posted: Sunday October 17th, 2010 08:25 am |
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I am currently in Kharkov, meeting several woman of interest through a free-lance interpreter and also ones I contacted online, mostly on singles.ru. Yesterday, while on the 4th date at a mall, playing pool with my favorite of the bunch, one of the simple silver hoop earrings she was wearing comes up missing after a trip to the WC. I thought to myself that this was so much like this story of "the lost gold", and I struggled to remember the correct underlying signals to send to make her feel better, and perhaps "advance the value of my stock" in her opinion. She was quite distraught, and frantically rushed back into the WC, and I helped her to search the area where we were sitting also, the modest earring had apparently been lost while st walking in the mall, or perhaps caused by me caressing her head and hair. Here are the thoughts that ran through my mind: 1. She is the woman I hope to win if the last two, yet unmet women, in the series prove not to be as great of a package as her. I cannot appear uncaring to her loss, possibly two days wages for her, but about an hours worth for me. 2. Did she perhaps remove the earring, stow it in her pocket, and try to elicit a sympathy purchase from me? Or to test my response? I reasoned to myself that since she said they were her favorite earrings, I would replace them with only an identical (redundant) pair. 3. It may be pleasant and advantageous to peruse the jewelry vendors with her to gain more insight into what she likes in jewelry for future reference. I bought her a slightly better but very similar pair and was rewarded with a big kiss. She was also quite affectionate for the rest of the date also, and we set a time to meet again. Was it the right decision? I think it was, but now after referring back to this post, maybe not.
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| Posted: Saturday October 30th, 2010 10:39 pm |
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ladagirl Member 
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deeptime1 wrote:
As it was a cheap purchase; do not worry. You did the right thing.
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| Posted: Thursday July 28th, 2011 06:22 pm |
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ronin1 Administrator
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deeptime1, The first date, more often than not, sets the tone of the whole relationship. It's similar to that in the States. However, RW think somewhat differently and so should you. First, one should define the objective of the first date. Often, this is hard to remember when you're in the presence of so many gorgeous RW. For most WM, the objective is to find out if a RW has an attraction outside of what a man brings to the table. Indeed, as ladagirl states, your purchase has little monitary ramifications to you but may have huge ramifications in indicating what kind of relationship you maybe setting up. If you don't buy a replacement item, she will not be happy having lost something so precious to her. Of course it will put a damper on the date. Of course you will not get any true indication of having an emotional attraction to you. If you do buy a replacement item she will be happy. Of course you will not get any true indication of having an emotional attraction to you. So in both situations the objective was not met. Now, you will be faced with the decision to see her again with the cloud of potentially being a "pay to play" girl or dropping her all together. I know this is a harsh view. Ronin
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