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Posted: Sunday February 24th, 2008 07:28 pm |
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A case of dead fish…
Through a number of accounts, I have become aware of an unusual behavior of an intimate nature that seems to be specific to Russian Women. RW can be, for lack of a better phase, ‘dead fish’ in bed. In general most WM don’t respond to this well and it may keep intimacy very ‘short’. To have this happen on one’s first passionate encounter would be rather awkward at best. The obvious thing to do is to blame the RW for her apparent lack of participation while the RW may become un-impress at the lack of performance of the man.
There are extenuating circumstances for this behavior so before throwing out the baby with the bath water consider this.
Russia is an archetypical patriarchal society where the men often dominate the women in almost all levels. So much so that many RW expect the man to ‘be the man’ and physically led affairs during intimate episodes. RW/RM intimate affairs may border on an S&M level. Those RW who have had several RM relationships may even come to expect this from a man and even measure a man’s manhood on fitting this stereotype that she may have developed through her experience.
Culturally speaking, Today,RW attitudes toward sex are very different from the West. RW are taught that sex is needed not just for love but for a person’s health and well being. RW realize that this extends not just for them but for men as well. Under the right circumstances they will set aside their nature to fulfill their partners need to release tensions through intimacy even though they may not really be in the mood for it. Such intimate episodes can therefore be lacking the enthusiasm that WM expect. Unlike in the West, WM are unlikely to hear, “I have a headache” from a RW.
For those RW that have had a socialist upbring, issues of sex were considered almost tabooed and were not talked about. This is similar to many religious WW attitudes. This also doesn't encourage activity or spontanuity in the bedroom.
Socially speaking RW are going through immense changes, however there still remains some constants that govern their social behavior. For instance, housing or the lack of it is one constant. This has lead to a culture of overcrowded dwellings where families or multiple families will share a single apartment. Intimate activities in under these conditions have there obvious limitations and has forced RW to adopt some very restrained habits over time or a frequent rush to the forest with her man in tow.
These are a few of the major social/cultural conditions that come to mind. There is of course RW personality types that lend themselves to being passive in the sexual arena. Overall, this is an issue that WM must examine very carefully for compatibility reasons. Sexual fulfillment is a key ingredient to a happy marriage. Don’t rationalize that it will get better with time.
more reading: e-book on RW: Part 9 Russian Women & Sex (Agency article.)
Ronin
Last edited on Monday March 17th, 2008 08:51 am by ronin1
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Posted: Saturday March 1st, 2008 08:29 am |
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The castor oil for what ails you...
So what does all this mean? It depends on what type of person you are. Some men prefer a passive partner and there will be plenty to choose from in Russia. RW with wallflower personality types are perhaps most abundant in Russia.
However for those that would like or require reciprocal participation behind closed doors to perform, such chronic passive behavior in bed can be anything from a yellow flag to a deal breaker. There are special considerations to contend with for this situation.
One, determine the type of living conditions that the RW was raised in and is currently living in.
Two, determine if a RW is an Aggessive or a Wallflower personality type.
Three, when most appropriate, ease into a frank discussion about her view on intimacy with a man she loves. See if what you’re experiencing matches her words.
Four, change your preference. This is perhaps the most difficult thing to do but people can and do change.
In general, having a ‘dead fish’ experience will perhaps happen with any RW from time to time, however, in general repeated sessions of this may not be a good sign if this is not ones cup of tea. If a WM experiences consistent passivity, one must consider the possibility that the RW is not into you for one reason or another. Either she is dead to you by chemistry or choice.
If it is by chemistry or, (to be more correct) the lack of it, you must decide if this is acceptable to you. Don’t try to kid yourself or rationalize that it will get any better… that after you bring her to the States that she will open up or learn to love you. Perhaps she may, but are you willing to bet the farm and your future happiness on it?
The greater possibility and threat is that she is this way by choice. Perhaps she a GCG trade-up girl that is looking at you as her potential sponsor to the promised land. She has shut herself off emotionally to sex in order to perpetrate her fraudulant plans.
There also exists a combination of both. These are walfowers with larceny in their hearts. They run silent and deep and when least expected they will topedo their husbands. They are almost impossible to detect because their behaviour as walflowers disquises their inactions as plauable to their reticent nature.
This is why no matter how you look at it, when a WM chums up to a chronic ‘dead fish’ he is looking at trouble right in the eyes. Whether be it the eyes of a flower that may bloom into who knows what or the eyes of a shark in wait or both, the odds are that in the long run, he will have a unsatisfied marriage or much worse.
RoninLast edited on Friday October 17th, 2008 08:41 pm by ronin1
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