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Posted: Saturday April 1st, 2006 09:12 pm |
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Russian Women and Cultural Shock…
Everyone has heard of cultural shock. It can manifest itself in many ways. It can be very apparent, however it most often is masked behind the scenes. For RW, it is particularly severe. The Russian society is essentially still a mono-culture that has been instilled and isolated for over 70 years. The doors have opened, however that will not undo who they are.
In short RW were raised knowing the Russian way of things. What does this mean? Their society is used to hearing one language. Schooling is standardized with one unique answer for each question. School-mates often become friends for life. It is not uncommon for the entire family with relatives to be in the same city or town. Very close ties to family with even closer ties to GFs. Going out to walk every day and meeting friends on the street. Going to get-togethers, parties and dancing frequently. There is much more to this than I can mention in one paragraph.
So what happens when RW arrive in one’s homeland? I will lay odds that it will be pretty much the opposite. And that is why cultural shock needs to be anticipated. If not, one may have to deal with the effects of cultural shock and relationship issues at the same time. When the two are in the mix, it will be difficult to identify where the true problems lie. Without understanding the true nature of a problem, it will be doubly difficult to find a solution.
So how does one prepare for cultural shock? It will vary for RW to RW. Still, there are some general things that can be done to ease the shock. Do learn the Russian language. Do take some time off work to show her around and get her used to life in your homeland. Do have some WM/RW couples that she can meet. Do take her out for walks, outings and dancing often. Keep her busy with things that need be done. Perhaps it will be school, children, home or career. As long as she is in motion with no more than moderate stress, she will be fine.
Avoid mentally taxing situations like having her meet all your family and relatives in the first week she arrives. RW often are self conscious about their English skills. Make sure they are well prepared for the situations that you may put them in.
Remember that in any endeavor, most of the work is in the preparation. Prep it right and you will spend the time with your RW in relative harmony. Hammering out a marriage relationship will be more a pleasure than a chore.
Ronin
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