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Posted: Friday April 21st, 2006 02:08 am |
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Russian Women & Arguing II…
This many sound like an oxymoron or a tongue in cheek description, however it is not. To understand RW one must also understand how they communicate. To embrace their means and adopt it as second nature will help insure that one’s family will stay together in a strong marriage.
In general, arguing in the West has bad connotations. It implies or indicates discord, imbalance or unhappiness in a family. Often, we (WM) will steer clear of topics that we know will led to an argument with any woman. Yet, this is our society’s interpretation.
One of the virtues of RW is in the way they argue. If her husband has good counter points, a discussion (argument as WM see it) will be relatively short. More significant is that most RW will not hold an argument against you at a later date as WW often do. Once the argument is closed it is forgotten unless the issue has not been clearly resolved.
How often have WM been plagued with the curse of cumulative recriminations from winning or losing any argument to a WW. To make matters worse, the arguments are often pointless or are a segway into another festering issue. Damned if you win and damned if you lose. Winning an argument, they become sore losers and spoil the day, if not longer. Losing an argument, they will save it like ammo to shoot one down upon the every subsequent related disagreement. Often, WM will eat it with the understanding that that’s the way they (WW) are. Indeed, that is the way WW may be, however there is a choice for those that can see outside of the box of their own society.
RW may argue more as a whole; however it is used to emphasis a point. Praise the Lord that there exists a country of women that argue with a point in mind. This comes from their pragmatic nature. This is why arguments with a RW are in reality heated discussions. There is logic in their words. Something WM can appreciate. Sometimes the logic is not apparent, nevertheless it is still there.
Historically, RW didn’t have the luxury of expending energy on pointless issues. This practical yet different approach still persists today. In this regard RW can fit harmoniously with WM. Still, it will take some adjustment on the part of WM to see that arguments, both big and small, are an integral part of the Russian communication process. Even longer still to take this method of communication to heart and put into practice. However, it is essential in many cases. Note that one’s lack of participation in this process can reflect poorly on the WM to the point that a failure in the relationship can occur. I hope this last statement underscores the importance of this topic.
For those that are adverse to confrontation, be aware it is not forever. As the years roll by and the RW acclimates to her new society, she slowly discovers that it is not necessary to have a loud voice and a long discussion to get what she wants or convey her point. However, the WM must be ever vigilant for when an issue arises that one may have to, on occasions, invoke the Russian means of communicating.
Ronin
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