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Posted: Thursday May 11th, 2006 02:43 am |
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Russian Woman's First Visit Home…
A Russian Woman that has been transplanted into foreign soil may initially complain about how things in foreign countries are not done or do not work right. They will often follow this with how things in FSU are done or do work right.
This behavior is often very perplexing to their WM husbands’. To some WM, it sounds ungrateful. To other WM, it may grate against their patriotic values. To a many, it may be an exasperating sign that the RW is not acclimating. To everyone, they are correct in a fashion.
In most cases, RW are no different than anyone in believing that their homeland is the best country on earth. They have a built in resistance to believing otherwise. This is especially true in countries that have been sheltered from the world at large. Also, despite their many nationalities, the FSU acts essentially as a monoculture. They are taught and raised into believing that there is only one way that is engraved in stone. Though this is changing now, these changes can’t undo a lifetime of experiences.
Unfortunately, the acclimation process is slow and punctuated with jumps. Inclusion into a society comes with one’s realization that they are functional in it. The largest realization typically occurs when the WM returns home to the FSU for a visit. There, they will find that they are out of sync. with their own country. Their slang and knowledge of current events will be dated. Many of their friends will have moved on. On the other side, the RW can now truly begin to compare the two countries they have lived in. They can begin to see the shortcoming of their homeland and ways of life.
This is a bittersweet realization that maybe difficult for them to swallow. Many RW will continue to mouth their homeland’s superiority though the truth comes out in their actions. This is the onset of acceptance of their new life. It is a necessary cornerstone that each RW has to pass. Be it a visit after 5 months or 5 years, the pilgrimage to their roots is a certainty. Often it is beneficial to the marriage relationship in closing this chapter of their life... for them to no longer linger on what was and to look forward to what will be.
Ronin
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